Personal relationships are often complicated, especially when it is a ‘dating’ relationship. Sometimes we hear people ask questions like ‘how far is too far?’ For a Christian that is a poorly worded question, we shouldn’t be pushing things to the limit, but pursuing holiness.... soak on the following verses.

Eph 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality...

2 Tim.2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart

1 Tim 5:1-2 Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.

* Where does kissing lead the mind? Pure thoughts?
* Does being alone with someone increase my purity or temptation?
　
　
2. Our beliefs will be shaped by society, feelings, family and friends until we learn what the bible says. Gods thoughts are not our thoughts, nor are His ways our ways. Every circumstance we find ourselves in requires us to make decisions and we will make those decisions based upon what ‘we’ feel is right or what we ‘want’ to do until God renews our minds through His Word.

Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Challenge..... Are the things you believe based upon what God says?
　
　
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A good working definition of Gods’ grace is ‘undeserved favor’

4.
We discussed why it is unbiblical and unwise to marry an unbeliever. Read the following verses and consider these truths once again.

1Co 2:14 The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.

A. Your desires - they may go to church with you - but they will not can not understand your passion for Christ
B. life authority - they will reject and resent Gods’ authority over you
C. life-goals - American Dream vs. Gods Glory
D. parenting - Spanking, discipline, teaching of scriptures
E. views on money Tithing, ownership vs. Stewardship

2Co 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?　
　
When looking for a possible spouse there are a lot of things that we look for, as I saw by the lists you filled out in class. Like everything else in life, the Bible guides us here also. We know we should narrow the list to a believer who is actively pursuing Christ, who shares our core beliefs about God, but what else should we be looking for? As we look over this list remember, if these are things a Christian guy should be looking for in a future wife, then these are things I should be doing and developing as a single Christian girl. The same holds true for what gals are looking for in guys.

What should guys be looking for, what should girls be looking like?

Is she modest? [if you are attracted to an immodest girl, what are you drawn to?] You may be attracted to her, but is this a quality you would want in a wife?

1 Timothy 2:9 I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

Does she look like a Proverbs 31 woman.. Study Proverbs 31:10-31
Pr. 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

a. Not lazy v.13-15
b. Compassionate v.31:20
c. Kind and gentle V.31:26 Not overbearing and quarrelsome
Pro 27:15-16 A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; (16) to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one's right hand.
d. humble, God fearing Pr. 31:30 humility and fear of the Lord trump the vanity of beauty & charm
e. non-flirtatious Pr. 31:28
f. someone your kids can look up to as a Godly example. Who you want modeling womanhood to your daughters

What should girls be looking for, what should guys be looking like?

[along with all of the above]
- Is he tough enough to lead your family spiritually

[God has given him the role of head of household]

1 Cor. 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

- Is he considerate and gentle with you. Does he consider your feelings?
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

- Would he be a good father? [How does he treat kids?]
Eph 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
　
Recently on Wednesday night we studied Jeremiah 2:1-11, Re-read it and consider the review below
Jer 2:12-13 Be appalled, O heavens, at this; be shocked, be utterly desolate, declares the LORD, for my people have committed two evils: they have forsaken me, the fountain of living waters, and hewed out cisterns for themselves, broken cisterns that can hold no water.

A. What 2 evils did the people commit?
Jer 17:5 Thus says the LORD: "Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the LORD.

Last Wednesday youth message....
James 5:12 Above all, my brothers, do not swear—not by heaven or by earth or by anything else. Let your "Yes" be yes, and your "No," no, or you will be condemned.

Luk 16:10 "One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much,
...............and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much.

We should be known as people of our words! Trustworthy
Dishonesty is part of the old life that must be put off in the new creation.

- Eph 4:25 Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.

There will also be questions from tonights message from James 5:13-16, you may want to read over it again.